Earlier this week I was reading a fellow adopting mama's blog post and was scrolling through the long list of comments made below it. I came across a comment that caught my eye by a women who's opinion I truly respect, Beth Templeton. You may or may not have ever heard of her, but I had the privilege of hearing her speak at the Created for Care retreat that I went to back in Feb 2011. She has an incredible testimony and offers much wisdom when it comes to world of adoption! In her response to this particular post, she offered such truth, that I find it keeps coming to mind over and over again the past couple days. Here is a what she said that has captured my thoughts...
"The key is responding to the Call, not to the need. Jesus always and only responded to what he saw his heavenly Father doing and what he heard His Father saying, and never to the need or the expectations of others. It's fascinating to read through the Gospels and see his actions from this perspective. It seems to me that the many families I have had contact with who have experienced destruction of their marriage or family structure as a result of adoption often adopted out of a sense of pressure that this is what they should do as good Christians, or in response to a very enthusiastic advocate who they respected. That does not give a strong enough foundation to deal with some of the extreme issues that many adopted children face, many not until they reach their teen years. I think it is important for people to be always encouraged to hear from God and not to overstep, so to speak, their level of faith. And if there is disagreement within the marriage about it, moving forward only with the revelation of the most conservative perspective. In our advocacy for special needs or older children (we adopted our 4 from Russia at 5, 7, 10 and 10), it is important that we don't encourage people to live out of our own faith or experience. Our role can be one of strengthening faith in this amazing God, so that others can then look to Him and hear what He is telling them-- possibly to step out of an already shattered comfort zone (as most people who are considering adoption have!) into another level of believing Him."
I LOVE this... respond to the CALL not to the NEED! How awesome is it that God has designed each one of us so uniquely different in order to accomplish His purposes AND that because He calls each of us to a different story- if we say YES, we are privileged to play a role in the most beautiful script ever written, specifically designed just for us?! Our distinct personalities, our God given passions, the way we are wired-they all play a role in what God has called us to do!
I can say with confidence that God's call for our family has been to pursue an international adoption of a baby boy, our Isa... we didn't conjure up the idea of adoption on our own, God flipped our world "right side up" (as my hubby says) with the unexpected burden to adopt. We've had no agenda of our own this entire time, which has left us begging for God's direction and clinging to His lead! Honestly, there have been more times than not where it would have just been easier to take matters into our own hands and walk away from the whole thing, or change our parameters, or pursue an entirely different route- after all, two years into this process is WAY LONGER than we ever thought it would be! The thing is though, God continues to confirm that we are exactly where He wants us to be (maybe not always where we want to be) but exactly where HE wants us! And so we stay put until HE tells us to move. My sweet friend Nancy Powell reminded me a couple weeks ago when I was discouraged to, "consider it a privilege that God thinks our story is worth the wait!" (thanks for reminding me of that Nancy!) His purposes are far greater than I can comprehend, He is working in facets I can't see, and my responsibility isn't to meet the need of the orphan crisis... it's to be obedient in responding to the call that He has so clearly placed before our family and to glorify Him in the process!
And so we continue to do our best to respond to the CALL (even when we're tired and wish His time frame was different than our own!) (o;